Real talk about exhaustion

These are a few pictures of what's been going on in my life.

Life with a new pup, keeping my coaching business moving, going out of town on a Wednesday with my husband, and having fun at the same time.


Personal story...

I used to tell myself that when my husband comes home from working out of the country, it was "exhausting" to switch schedules every few weeks.

I used to have thoughts that left me feeling resentful around scheduling and routines.

I also acted like there was something wrong.

NOTHING was wrong.

It was the way I was thinking about schedules, a new puppy, and managing my coaching business.

My friend, it's not the project deadline, difficult client, family member, the new puppy, or coworker that's creating the exhaustion that you're feeling.

It's the story you're telling yourself that is creating the exhaustion you're feeling.

Going through something similar?

Ask yourself the following:

1 Why am I acting like it's a problem when ______...

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Are you an overgiver?


Empaths often get overwhelmed because we have a tendency to OVERGIVE. 

So I thought I'd leave you with a bit of encouragement today. 

If you could give ONE piece of encouragement for all to hear, what would it be? 

Here's mine: small acts of service are more natural than overgiving. 

Here's why: 

  • Giving from your heart creates radiance around you.
  • Overgiving is exhausting. You'll feel it in your body
  • Small acts of service will leave you feeling like there's a spark of light that went off inside you.

How do you know that you're *NOT* overgiving? 

  •  It feels natural.
  • There's not any drama associated with your action.
  • Your body signals and energy level will tell you that you've given just the right amount. 

Small acts of service can look like this: 

  • Holding the door open for someone even when you're in a hurry. 
  • Smiling at a stranger. 
  • Give your friend or partner a compliment. 

Your action step: 



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90 Second Emotions

It's true!

Emotions only last 90-seconds.

"When a person has a reaction to something to their environment, there's a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop." ~ Jill Bolte Taylor
When I read this quote, there was a spark of curiosity that ran through my mind and body.
I even went down the rabbit hole trying to find evidence against it. 

I'll use anger as an example.

You get that email, see something on social media, or read a comment that upsets you. 

  • Anger is your primary emotion based on what you read.
  • You have a thought that sets off the emotion of anger as your primary emotion. 
  • A wave of chemicals moves through your body.
  • This takes less than 90 seconds. 
  • Then it's gone. 

If anger lasts more than 90 seconds, it's because you're replaying that story in your mind.
Every time you replay the story, you...

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Block Energy Vampires with This One Simple Tip

I’ve been involved with a few of the “empath” Facebook groups here and there and I’m seeing a common theme: empaths are not willing to take action to stop energy vampires from zapping their energy. 

It breaks my heart to read about all of the problems empaths are having with energy vampires but there's not a single thing I've read that promotes taking any type of action.

That's where I come in.

If there’s an empath problem, there’s a solution. And I'm here to give solutions. But it all starts with YOU. You must take some type of action to get to a place where you can stand in your own power and learn to STOP letting energy vampires feed on your life force. Yep - your energy. Whether it’s the controller, the victim, the narcissist, the space invader, or any type of energy vampire. 

The solution I'm about to offer you is NOT exciting. It might even seem like the silliest way to deal with energy vampires but hear me out…...

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Energy Vampires: The Victim

We're diving deep and discussing what types of energy vampires can slowly drain the energy out of our daily energy “bank account” I thought I’d give you a sneak peek.

Last week, I talked about the Space Invader Energy Vampire. If you missed it, I also created a blog post about it here:

Here's an interesting type of energy vampire that I think everyone has in common. The Victim. Yes - I know, we’ve all unintentionally settled into the victim mentality every now and then but we don’t want to live there. 

I’m talking about the type of Energy Vampire Victim who is living in their “victimhood”. 

As empaths, these energy vampires can really drain our energy and leave us feeling like we've absorbed all of their problems. We walk away feeling heavy, frustrated, and wondering what just happened to make us feel...

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What you should know about crying

Did you know that tears are healing?

They're the body’s natural release valve for stress, grief, frustration, anxiety, and sadness.

If you're an empath, you might have been told you're "too emotional'. Not to worry. You're just naturally healing. Your body knows exactly what to do.

Tears help protect our eyes by removing irritants, reducing stress hormones, and tears contain antibodies that naturally protect our eyes.

They allow your eyes to clear out irritants, protect our eyes from infection, and are a part of the body’s department of defense.

After crying, our breathing and heart rate decrease, and we enter into a calmer biological and emotional state.

Emotional tears contain stress hormones. They shed hormones and toxins that build up during stress. Crying also stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer and “feel-good” hormones.
Crying is also essential to resolve grief when waves of tears periodically come over us...

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Do you get exhausted easily? Why you should listen to your fatigue.


Empaths experience our share of fatigue.

Fatigue is the first sign of overwhelm and overwhelm leads to exhaustion, anxiety, depression, adrenal fatigue, and sensory overload. 


But, we keep on working. We all have todo lists, priorities, projects, and commitments. We keep working, thinking that we can dig ourselves out of this chaos by more work. 


Why do we do this? 


Society says, “tough it out”. Society rewards this behavior. 

We celebrate overachievers who ignore their body signals. 


This is incredibly harmful to HSP and Empaths. 

We need ample downtime, quiet, and rest to thrive. 



Fatigue is your voice of wisdom. It’s your body and your energy level telling you something. This is called listening to your body! 


Take one compassionate action (baby step) for yourself. 

  • Electronics OFF for 15 minutes 
  • Meditate - this will help you get quality sleep
  • This...
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